I always heard that when a couple plan to get married they will undergo some serious argumentation with his/her partner, and for some couple out there the serious argumentation will lead them to cancel their marriage plan.
I have found this "myth" is true. Me and my future wife had plan to get married on this November 2008 and yes we had lots of serious argumentation that lead to a fight. I even have a name for our moment of fight, it called : 'fight night'. Once or twice in a month we always had an argumentation about all kind of things and now little by little i know we made small things turns out to be a big problems.
I did not enjoy every time we have an argumentation/debate. It wasting my time, my energy and my logic thinking. Today i read my sister's magazine and i found an interesting article about "reasons why man angry to his woman".
1. She dictate what should he do.
2. She demanding too much about everything from him.
3. She wants him to always know what is in 'her mind'.
4. She blame him for what he did not do.
5. She blame him for the 'unhappiness' condition.
6. She makes a problem of everything he did.
So far, i did not get angry yet. I notice that six reasons above are true and honestly some of it was the main reason why we're get in a 'fight night'.
What can i understand now is, when you choose someone to become your lifetime partner do this :
1. Accept who he/she is.
2. Don't change him/her to someone that you want.
3. Stop demanding but start asking.
4. Trust him/her for what they do is for good to both of you.
5. Accept what he/she give you don't judge by the price!.
6. Don't hesitate to ask question to him/her.
Well, there's six reasons why man angry and there's six reasons to avoid 'fight night'.
If by accidentally my future wife read this, well baby..i still love you as much as you do.
I have found this "myth" is true. Me and my future wife had plan to get married on this November 2008 and yes we had lots of serious argumentation that lead to a fight. I even have a name for our moment of fight, it called : 'fight night'. Once or twice in a month we always had an argumentation about all kind of things and now little by little i know we made small things turns out to be a big problems.
I did not enjoy every time we have an argumentation/debate. It wasting my time, my energy and my logic thinking. Today i read my sister's magazine and i found an interesting article about "reasons why man angry to his woman".
1. She dictate what should he do.
2. She demanding too much about everything from him.
3. She wants him to always know what is in 'her mind'.
4. She blame him for what he did not do.
5. She blame him for the 'unhappiness' condition.
6. She makes a problem of everything he did.
So far, i did not get angry yet. I notice that six reasons above are true and honestly some of it was the main reason why we're get in a 'fight night'.
What can i understand now is, when you choose someone to become your lifetime partner do this :
1. Accept who he/she is.
2. Don't change him/her to someone that you want.
3. Stop demanding but start asking.
4. Trust him/her for what they do is for good to both of you.
5. Accept what he/she give you don't judge by the price!.
6. Don't hesitate to ask question to him/her.
Well, there's six reasons why man angry and there's six reasons to avoid 'fight night'.
If by accidentally my future wife read this, well baby..i still love you as much as you do.
